what i found was...
UseCanonicalName on
so i reading into it i foudn that it controls the varibles and other crap.... this
also affects SERVER_NAME and SERVER_PORT in CGI scripts.
changed it to off... and i think that fixed it completly...
well so my site is back up and running... and i hope that was all that it took.. but i did strip down apache and i'm getting much better performance out of it.. and i did remove allt he ssl stuff and that might have had somethign to do with it.. but i think it was the UseCanonicalName.....
SO i hope that helps you all and good luck :)